This is for all the lonely people

Do you think that life is passing you by?

It isn't.

I feel led to write something to all the single people that I may know, in the hope of encouraging you! You may think all of this is just so easy for me to say being "in a relationship" and all, but please hear me out and maybe you'll realize that things aren't so different.

What I don't want to give you is some meaningless encouragement along the lines of, "Oh, God has someone for you, just wait." No, sir! That kind of waiting is exactly what I want to encourage you not to do! Yes, I know that we (guys, I know, but probably girls too) have our fleshly drive to really, really want a girlfriend or boyfriend for a myriad of reasons. But what you should be thinking is how to serve God and grow in righteousness with the blessings that you currently have. Don't look for a significant other for your own sake; instead trust God to provide one, if it is His will, for His own sake. Guess what? That struggle remains exactly the same while in a relationship!

I'll be honest with you guys. I struggle with it, and let me tell you, when I am viewing my girlfriend as just someone to keep me company, to make me happy, that is far more miserable than when I see her as someone God has put in my life to help me serve Him better! Through loving her, I can learn to love others better. Through her knowledge of me, she can exhort me in a way that few others can to either fight some sin in my life or to do good where I do not.

Thanks for bearing with me through that, because you might be thinking, "Well that's great for you, but what about me?" This is a trustworthy statement: you can have the same blessings available, single or not! Let me tell you something else about myself: until a little over a year ago, I was looking. All the time. Focused completely on myself, I weighed all the girls around me to see which I would like to go out with. And where did it lead me? I got rejected once and later had a 1-week relationship which probably should not have happened in the first place. Although my "standards" got better, in terms of looking for good Christian girls and all that, my motives didn't. Yeah, it was quite a tragedy. Then last September rolled around, and God changed me! Instead of looking for a girl, I decided to just trust His providence and work on serving Him where I was then. Honestly, that's all I could do. And guess what? Since last September, I can say that (through the power of the Trinity and not my own) I have grown more that ever! Praise God.

So, please, let me encourage you all to do the same. Just as I also have to, focus on how to glorify God in your current state, appreciate the great and loving friendships you have around you, and enjoy His riches. :)

He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of righteousness. (II Cor. 9:10)

With love,
David